The day we are obliged to celebrate. The day that stresses
out ones families and friends. The day that little kids look forward to. The
day that 17 year olds simply cannot wait for. The day that elderly people dread
and lie about. The day that celebrates the culmination of 52 weeks or 365 days.
What day am I talking about you ask? The day is: Birthdays.
What is all the fuss about? This day is one which whether we
love birthdays or not, we have all hated at some point in our lives. Society
tells us that once a year we should celebrate the date of our birth with family
and friends alike. As a young child you live for these days, as its ‘cool’ to
be old. With age comes: strength, growth and respect, things we crave as a
young child. Not only will you be bigger and stronger but the prezzies you get
are the main reason for your unnecessary bursts of excitement. Children aren’t really
interested in growing up. All they want is; that remote control car or the
latest PlayStation game. The happiness of the birthday is measured by the
quality of their gifts and not by the moments that surround it. As we get older
our happiness can be measured by somewhat different means.
As a teenager growing up all you want to do is turn 18.
Being 18 gives one a false sense of adulthood as we can finally do things we
always dreamed of doing as a young kid. We can go to the cool night-clubs. We
can drive a car. We can sing “18 till I die”. We can even consume the social
lubrication that is alcohol. When you are 17, you count the days down to your
18th, it becomes the highlight of your adolescent years. The next
big birthday after that is 21, but before you get there you have the small
matter of turning 19 and 20 to get out the way. These birthdays usually involve
a lot of drinking and dancing. We celebrate for the sake of celebrating.
Society tells us that birthdays are meant to be celebrated so we immediately
tell ourselves: “it’s my birthday, I must get drunk”. As young people we will
gather together, booze in hand and party, using our birthday as an excuse for
our intoxication.
21 is another big birthday, in the birthday world. When you
turn 21 you are now an ‘adult’ according to society. Instead of just gathering
the mates up for a standard party, we make this one a little more formal.
Although the concept is the same as every other party you attended after your 18th
(get drunk and go crazy), it is somewhat different. Instead of getting drunk
and partying with our friends we get drunk and party with our friends and our family. There will also be speeches involved where
people close to you will share stories about you to the rest of the party as we
laugh at your expense. After this birthday, the ‘fun factor’ of growing up
subsides dramatically. As we move through our twenty’s we are forced to become responsible
and face some daunting life choices that we’d prefer not to. This is the time
period where we are forced to grow up and embrace adulthood, whether we like it
or not.
The thing that makes my brain do summersaults when it comes
to birthdays is the concept of presents. I feel that this is the most
impersonal concept we indulge in as a society. Why should one receive gift on
their birthday? Sure it a celebration but so are a lot of things. I don’t buy
my friend a present every time he passes a test that he works hard for. I don’t
buy my dad a present when the Springboks win a rugby game. I don’t buy sister a
present when she passers her driver’s license. These are all celebratory
moments why shouldn’t we set aside a day and celebrate them like we do
birthdays? There is nothing more infuriating then trying to find someone a
unique and special birthday present.
The whole ‘present thing’ really makes me question birthdays
and their true meanings. When we are young children they are days which we look
forward to. Presents are a vital necessity. As we get older our interest in
thoughtful gifts fades away as we’d rather spend this day throwing up in the
toilet of a nightclub. Presents are a bonus but not a necessity. Furthermore as
the years surpass birthdays become mundane inconveniences. Presents are appreciated
but not really wanted. My point is that birthdays and they hype that surrounds
them should be calmed down. We should use these days to celebrate our lives
with the people we love. I do realize how cheesy that sounds but it is the
truth. I feel that as a society we have become obsessed with the materialistic tangible
products that come hand in hand with days like the one I’ve been speaking
about. Our happiness is influenced more by the gifts we receive than by the
people who buy us those gifts. Sure, birthdays are a day to celebrate, but don’t
cry when you don’t get that designer handbag you always wanted, smile and love
the person who went to the trouble to get you that ‘not quite as cool’ jersey
from Woolworths. On days like these, it truly is the thought that counts.